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Jennifer Asdorian's avatar

Thank you for writing this, Katie. It is the first article I’ve read where someone publicly talks about going through IVF and not “getting the baby.”. I lived a very similar story. It has been 6 years for me since we decided we were done with trying. And you are so right about the impossible nature of “choosing” to be done. Inherently there is this blame that the couple did not try enough or manifest or pray or do EVERYTHING to succeed. I had to ask myself a lot of hard questions including - where are all of the failed IVF people? I knew they were out there too, but were hidden from view - out of shame, grief, and despair. I thank you for writing this. I’ve been waiting a long time to read it.

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Kelly Bunch's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story. Mine is eerily similar, but I'm still in the throes of it all. I can't wait to dive into more of your work.

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